Dressing inappropriately for an interview
Beware: dressing inappropriately for aa job interview can be totally avoided. I felt so bad. I almost couldn’t rebound from that dark,…
Beware: dressing inappropriately for a
a job interview can be totally avoided.
I felt so bad. I almost couldn’t rebound from that dark, lurking sense of regret. It was like a gray cloud looming over my training, and I couldn’t seem to shake it. I thought about what I should have said, could have said, and ended back at the point of the scenario where remorse resided. Let me get you caught up on what I’m talking about. My subject is dressing inappropriately for an interview, which ties in. Hang in there with me.
My personal story about bias and clothes
The other day, I did a mini-training for a friend. I am usually paid $350 an hour to train, but I like this person so much that I quickly said “yes” to support her.
Well, the training content was about making a good first impression. The audience was teens. Yes, kiddos! I love young people.
Listen to the podcast on the subject of dressing inappropriately for a job interview.
I had it covered, and dressing professionally was part of the conversation!
I covered all the basics of making a good first impression and how to acquire the skills you admire in other people.
It was good training, and my rapport with the teens was really good (for a Gen-Xer).
We discussed dressing appropriately for various occasions and how one outfit doesn’t translate well into another.
It was all covered and in record time!
The unsolicited applause started after I thanked the young people for their time. I felt good—really Good. Then, it was interrupted.
An adult from the back of the room stood behind a young man wearing a hoodie. After gently placing her hands on his shoulders, she said to me, “Could you say something about wearing hoodies?”
Ugh. Crap. Dang!
I sensed the young man’s embarrassment—heck, I was embarrassed for him. In my haste, I tried to say something like, “He was at a training session —not a job interview, so it was OK for him to wear his hoodie.”
Blah Blah Blah
The frustration and anger over the situation muffled my communication skills. I was a little flustered by that person’s audacity. As you know, it’s never good to humiliate anyone, especially a young person, in front of a room full of people. I wished I had said more, and that’s when the regret kicked in.
I reminded him he dressed correctly for that situation
During the break, the young man was standing near me.
I had an opportunity to apologize to him and reaffirm that he looked fine for the setting in which he was. After all, AGAIN… he wasn’t at a job interview, and no one had communicated a dress code prior.
He was a good kid and interested in the topic of dressing inappropriately for an interview.
He was so humble that he asked me softly, “Should I take it off?” referring to his hoodie. I said a strong “NO!” sighed, and said, “You’re fine, Honey.” Even though he was taller than me, I saw a six-year-old in his eyes – desperate for affirmation in a world that would judge him by a stupid hoodie.
I don’t pen this post to glorify myself. At the moment, I did and said too little. I’m writing to remind us that we cannot judge a book by its cover. I’ve sat across from clients who own large-scale Kansas City companies, and many of them wore hoodies and sneakers.
Guess what. They were dressed appropriately for that setting (mainly because they owned the company).
Dressing inappropriately for an interview
Interviews are a different scenario.
I’m sure you’ve interviewed someone improperly dressed. Perhaps they wore jeans, a mismatched outfit, or were too casual for a job interview.
For years, I was guilty of judging such people and assuming they couldn’t do a job based on what they wore. This is a new world. Whether you like it or not.
There are many reasons people may come to an interview (or anywhere) dressed inappropriately. Don’t miss out on a jewel because you judge too harshly … too soon.
So often, people don’t know any better than what they do.
Many young people grow up without proper coaching and support. As a result, they have no idea flip-flops are inappropriate for a job interview.
Sometimes, you may have to catch the fish before cleaning it.
You can coach an employee on proper attire, but you cannot coach the exceptional skills, attributes, and abilities one needs to be a good team member.
I know the lady who singled out the young man in the hoodie meant no harm, but she caused some.
Be careful with your staff and your interviewees. Cut people some slack and be a good person and a good professional.
So, you know, I rebounded from my ominous haze of regret. Yes, dressing inappropriately for a job interview is a huge mistake, but casual dress at a training session is not.
My colleague and work buddy also attended that training. We chatted, and she hugged me, making me feel much better about the scenario.
I think people are confused about dressing inappropriately for an interview and dressing for a casual experience.
This is an example of being too casual for a first impression—unless it is a Zoom interview. This is my opinion.
This is way too casual for when dressing inappropriately for an interview
In my opinion, this is business casual – a common way workplaces dress now.
Aim for a relaxed conversation style if the interviewer says the interview is casual.
Frankly, I’d still throw on a blazer.
This is an example of business casual when dressing inappropriately for an interview.
Common mistakes people make dressing for job interviews are:
1. Dressing too casually for a job interview.
Being too casual is the #1 faux pas for dressing inappropriately for an interview. Remember, in a job interview, you’re selling your best self. Like it or not, your clothes really do matter.
Interviews are not the time to be over-confident about your appearance and assume that “I’m good at what I do, and clothes don’t matter to me.” Hey, first impressions still matter. Unless you’re Bill Gates, present yourself professionally.
When you reach his status, you can dress “down”; until then, put your best “you” forward and get the job.
2. “God made me funky!”
Sorry. This is a line in an old song.
Anyway, your job interview is not the time to be trendy, funky, or extraordinarily unique. Here’s the thing.
You don’t know what will be perceived as immature, flighty, or offensive.
The wrong sort of “standing out” may label you as just that.
An example of doing way too much dressing for an interview.
Go ahead. You can say, “I don’t care; I love my blue hair,” and that’s ok.
That’s great. However, please understand the power broker (or hiring manager) interviewing you may hate it and that “self-expression” may cost you the job you want.
Sorry. It’s true. Or, as my grandpa used to say, “It’s tight, but it’s right.”
I’m not advocating for losing “yourself” to be considered professional. Not at all. Still, you must adapt.
If your hair is blue, maybe wear it in a bun when interviewing in a traditional work environment.
I will often wear my Afrocentric jewelry with a suit. It’s all about balance.
Another personal example is my hair. I have natural hair, and it’s BIG when unleashed. I often tie it back in “some settings” and unleash the “beast” later. That’s me.
The thing is, I know how to navigate socially to get what I want and get to get where I want. Being able to do so has served me well so far.
For example, it’s not inauthentic that I don’t wear my Snuggy in public. I know when and where to do such things.
3. Doing way too much.
My first point was about doing too little, so this point will be about doing too much.
For example, never let your jewelry, clothing, or accessories outshine your talent in an interview. If you wear too many accessories, this is precisely what can happen.
Instead, exercise the same balance I spoke of in point two. Your job interview is not the time to wear hoop earrings the size of saucers or a 5-inch cross around your neck. Let nothing outshine the real you.
Along the same lines, showing too many tats could give the wrong impression to an interviewer who has none or who has strong opinions about them.
So, show just enough of yourself to get that second interview. It’s better to unveil yourself gradually than to get “cut off” or cut out after the first one and lose the opportunity to “sell” yourself, right?
4. Consider the environment so you don’t dress inappropriately for an interview.
This is key to dressing for interviews. If your environment is creative – or if the job itself is – you can get away with dressing more creatively. Nevertheless, if the workplace is a bit more subdued and conservative, dress accordingly if you want to work there.
If you don’t, then why would you apply?
Also, jeans for interviews are a risk. I included them in the pic below because some employers are fine it with it.
Personally, I would wear khakis. When in doubt, ask, “Would you describe the organizational culture and typical attire?”
How to dress for your job interview – maybe
Dressing inappropriately for an interview will tank your chances, but something like the outfits below could be a safe bet.
Remember, these are my opinions based on many years of experience.
The environment in which you interview makes a whole world of difference.
If you are interviewing for a bank or ultra-conservative environment, everything above might be all wrong.
Shoot for something more like this:
Ultimately, the most important thing is to find the balance between showing the interviewer your personality and demonstrating professionalism.
Don’t let something as silly as clothes prevent you from doing that.
Remember this above all!
Listen, dressing inappropriately for an interview is not so much about showing them who you are but who they need you to be.
Then, you go in and remove the layers of your beautiful complexity little by little.
But first, get your foot in the door, learn the culture, and then shine bright!
Here are more resources:
A great resource: “How to Dress for an Interview by Industry” from Monster.Com”
My work as a True Colors consultant and trainer…
I leverage the four personality styles to help you when working with different personalities in the workplace. I also often discuss how business personalities affect how you approach work and manage work personalities. I also answer the question,” How does personality influence communication at work?” Your temperament plays a role in everything. I love talking about it and exploring exactly how!
